So dating in this day and age and relationships are complicated. Here is a few bird's eye views on your options:
Dating challenges
So you're single. No problem with that, in fact it's quite pleasant to not have the obligations most relationships pose, or so you keep telling yourself. But then you go to a family wedding without a date, thinking that you are a liberated single professional person who does not need a partner by your side. Right! But then by the 7th family member asking you when it is your turn and where your partner is, you decide there and then that being single does not seem so great and liberating. You think of all your friends, brothers and sisters with fulfilling happy relationships and decide to give it a try. So you decide that you decide to take action and look for your perfect match, the so called "Soul mate" or "Perfect Match" everybody claims to have found.
Internet dating:
Scientific minds would possibly try to calculate the odds of meeting someone online and check out things like Pepper Schwartz's algorithm
(Read more:Online Dating Using Mathmatical Calculations | eHow.com http://www.ehow.com/about_6736781_online-dating-using-mathmatical-calculations.html#ixzz11lpMBajt).
However anybody who ever tried internet dating would tell you that it does not work. Let’s be honest, how many couples you know found love on the internet? So after joining three or so on-line dating sites you realize that you believe nothing anybody says to you. In truth your dream date could be a telephone operator in Siberia and claim to be the CEO of a mid-size company and do skydiving as a hobby in their profile and this you might only discover after spending several weeks anticipating the meeting in real life and chatting hours on line.
So, finding relationships on line – No go!
Speed-dating:
Not a good idea at all. I will go into this later but in the meantime you may read Blink by Malcolm Gladwell. One can form an instant opinion in a few seconds, however if you are not an expert at human psychology you will most probably be fooled by the pleasant appearance of a person at first glance. The problem with speed dating comes in when you like them at first glance and they don’t like you as much and no numbers are exchanged. It could end up in several rounds of speed dating before you meet someone that you even go on a date with. You are a busy person right? No reason not to give it a try though....
Events clubs:
Great idea. To meet friends that is. There are a lot of people but in the end it is just like any other party and you have not been successful meeting people at parties hosted by friends so far? Just a thought. See this link for an opinion from the horses’ mouth
http://shine.yahoo.com/channel/sex/6-reasons-singles-events-are-a-bad-place-to-meet-someone-294259/.
This is not to say that all events are bad, however if you intend on meeting someone at these events, don’t put your heart on it. See it as Network opportunity
Professional dating agency / Matchmaker
It is a widely held belief that arranged marriages end up in lower divorce rate. This could be due to the religious and social pressures people in arranged marriages feel, however it could also be that the marriage partners chosen. The biggest benefit is that there is a conscious attempt to match the two families as well as the bride and groom on the parameters of social status, financial strength, background, educational opportunities and similar lifestyle. This is a cool-headed decision that is thought to tremendously increase the likelihood of the marriage succeeding.
Professional Matchmaking works on the same principle, with the difference that you still have the choice. You have an expert looking after your personal needs and requirements and who will help you engineer your relationships.
Visit www.click-dating.co.za to view such a service.
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