How to start dating again after a divorce or Break-up

So you are divorced...

Yes you and a lwhole bunch of other South Africans (See statistics http://www.statssa.gov.za/publications/statskeyfindings.asp?PPN=report-03-07-01&SCH=3703.) 

And you think this causes you to be an outcast and not “dating material”?

Yes.  I know because I’ve heard the following from divorcees:

• The only person I ever loved married someone else.
• I'm 45, never been married and the odds of my finding someone are zero.
• I'm 64 and divorced three times. Who would want me?
  
  

If any of the aforementioned has crossed your mind and you are using it as an excuse, know this - just because you don't know how to get a date doesn't mean that you can't. If you want to date, and if you want to meet someone special, you can learn how to do it! To further prove my point, every one of the above people who said these things eventually learned to date, and three out of five of them have already met someone and fallen in love. The other two will also find their partners if they keep working at it. Would you like to know how they did it? First, they changed their minds and stopped thinking it couldn't be done. Second, they took action.

Take Action:

Home Alone is a good name for a movie but it's not a good name for you if you want a social life. You can't sit in front of the TV and wait for the dating world to arrive. If you feel you are ready to date; if you have your life reasonably together; and, if you have taken time to feed your spirit after breaking up with someone, then it's time for you to get moving. Lots of dates are waiting to meet you.

Forget about the myth of REJECTION:

So many great people stop the flow of their dating life and accumulate more and more "proof" that they are not datable or lovable. The "proof," of course, is all in their imagination. When you gather this kind of false evidence, you either settle for someone you don't really want or don't go out at all because you anticipate rejection. Once you understand that you have the power over how you feel about yourself, no one can "reject" you. If someone indicates they don't want to date you, obviously, you don't want to go out with them. You want to be around people who appreciate you. And hey what if he does not ask for your number? His loss – plenty of fish in the sea and he was conceited anyway.

The more actions taken, the greater your SUCCESS will be:

If you are sincere about wanting to meet someone, you will get out often to different settings. You will be friendly, talk to people, reach out to others, and create a social life. You will have so much going on, you won't have time to feel rejected. Here are some reasons why I see matchmaker services as a good way to meet people:

• This is one of the best ways to meet someone who comes with reference recommendations as your matchmaker has screened all the candidates on the data basis.
• You can give a list of minimum requirements e.g no smokers or no extreme extroverts.
• Your matchmaker will help you through the process. If you are a shy person she will help you go on an “activity date” which does not require sitting over a table with nothing to say.
• You can eliminate making the same mistakes again and again by working with your matchmaker and keeping her informed about the things you might find off-putting about a date

Enjoy meeting different people:

Do not get stuck on the idea of meeting one person and they would be the right match for you. Be ready to meet a lot of people and see what you like and dislike about each of them and then choose your partner. Enjoy dating, it can be nerve wrecking at first but as you get used to it you will find a very wide variety of interesting people to connect with.

So if you are a single divorcee in Gauteng call your matchmaker now to make an appointment Benefit by contacting a matchmaker in Guaten now